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How springy are you?

June 25, 2012 by Rosalind Joffe 3 Comments

Last week, it was the 1st heat wave of the summer and I was seriously drooping.  Just walking to my car in the sun knocked me out.

Prior to the first mutiple sclerosis episode 32 years ago, heat wasn’t an issue.  Since then,  I melt in heat and my function drops dramatically.

But here’s the thing:  once I’m in a cool place, I cool down and feel fine  (or at least better).  Lovely.  My body is still resilient, that way, after all this time.

I hadn’t noticed resilience in myself until I’d lived with illness for a decade.  When I recognized it, I sensed this would help me create a satisfying life while living with chronic health problems.

When I became a parent, I wanted to nurture resilience  in my children.   I seriously believed that my daughters needed to SEE  this behavior in me.  This became a key motivator for me.  Funny thing happened.  I got better at being resilient to my health problems — and other parts of my life — with practice.

This topic is getting significant play these days.   Here are just two examples:  The Mayo Clinic wrote Build Skills to Endure Hardship and Psychology Today, All About Resilience.  Basically, the message is that people with this quality are more successful in overcoming difficult times.

The thing is it’s often likened to being positive or having an optimistic, upbeat  attitude.  I define resilience as the ability to bounce back when you’re knocked down, rather than always seeing the silver lining, although that might be how one gets there.  I wrote about it extensively in my book, (Women, Work and Autoimmune Disease:  Keep Working, Girlfriend!).

Recently, I was discussing this topic with a client who wondered: is this  innate or can you learn it?  The articles imply and sometimes say that you can get better at it.  My own take is that it seems to be innate but it doesn’t always show up until you’re  ‘tested’ .   Typically, people who have been able to spring with the punches , have shown  resilience and will bring this to the bigger challenges,  like living with health conditions.

I’ve also  seen people who haven’t had to develop this and don’t realize this quality within themselves.  Then, once they identify it’s there, they can nurture it and help it grow.

What do you think?

 

Filed Under: Attitude, BOOK - Women Work and Autoimmune Disease, Musings on LIfe with Chronic Illness

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Comments

  1. Diana says

    June 26, 2012 at 12:42 pm

    I agree with you that resilience is an innate quality that sometimes doesn’t show up until we need it. I suspect that most of us with chronic illnesss have more than our share of it. Or maybe we’re simply stubborn. Sometimes I feel like I don’t have any resilience left and want to just give up and then it comes right back.

  2. Rosalind says

    June 26, 2012 at 12:46 pm

    Resilience is good that way, isn’t it?

  3. Helena says

    July 6, 2012 at 10:26 am

    Great post Rosalind! I have found that resilience is best developed through deep connections with those around us; not through some solitary journey of our own. We need our spouse, our kids, our extended family and friends and even our community to help us weather the storms of life. Resilience does not come from going it alone but rather letting others in.

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