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Holidays include office parties that you don't want to go to

November 26, 2007 by Rosalind Joffe 3 Comments

Thanksgiving is over and we’re entering the serious party season!

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I’m talking to clients who are feeling an all too familiar weariness – especially at work – that crops up this time of year.

I know. Who wouldn’t feel this way when you’re “fighting” daily chronic pain, fatigue — or a body that isn’t working the way it should? Yes, it is natural to want to hide from people who are having fun (or at least trying to). And nowhere is this more true than in those offices that like to think they’re “employee-friendly” by encouraging the holiday festivities.

Bah, humbug. And, if you’re thinking, “No one can legislate my good mood” you’re right. But, be careful that you don’t shoot yourself in the proverbial foot!

I’m not suggesting you pretend to be the energizer bunny. But, ask yourself this: how can you pay attention to your limits and still be part of the festivities? This means paying even more attention to your body than you normally do and less to the emotional “stuff” around you.

The bottom line is that the best way to get and keep the support you need at your work is to show that you really do try to be “part of the team”. People appreciate effort.

Funny thing about cheer – the more you put out to others, the more likely they’ll give it back to you. And chronically unhealthy body or not, we all could use some of that cheer.

Rosalind

Filed Under: Attitude, Musings on LIfe with Chronic Illness, Working for others, Working with chronic illness

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Comments

  1. Diana Brice says

    November 28, 2007 at 4:50 pm

    We have three Christmas parties where I work–one for each seminary and 1 for the library. They all require varying degrees of participation and all are held during the workday. I do what I feel I’m capable of, from making and bringing a dish, helping to set up or simpy being present. I feel perfectly comfortable is simply sitting and listening, just soaking up the atmosphere without using up all of my energy. Thus far no one has questioned my “style” of participation and I still am able to feel like a part of the group.

  2. Rosalind says

    November 29, 2007 at 2:45 pm

    Don’t you think it’s because you’ve already made it clear that you contribute? Good to see you don’t question it yourself.

  3. Ben Coffland says

    October 23, 2010 at 5:32 pm

    Very informative article with some fascinating recommendations! I can’t say that I totally agree with all you have written here, but there are a few relevant information you have highlighted that can be quite usable on natural health and related topics. Definitely keep offering more ideas on this topic and associated matters, as there are plenty of people who are working to evaluate the positives and negatives.

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