What happens when you can no longer do the work that you’d always done and were successful in doing — and you can’t figure out a job that you can do?  The answer? Fear. Especially if you are your sole source of support.
Unless you have an unusual private disability plan (and that’s if you qualify), you’d be relying on social security disability insurance, (if you could get that) and that is going to be a pittance compared to what you’ve been earning. Poverty — and the loss of esteem and value from not working – isn’t appealing, is it?
I frequently get approached with requests for coaching help, when people are at this point and desperate for what to do. There’s usually little time and few resources to work with. That’s not to say there aren’t things you can do. But my best suggestion is to address this before it becomes “emergency” level, “Code ORANGE” – when there are no longer any good options.
My next best suggestion is: find a way to look at the situation from a completely different vantage point than ever before. You need to have fresh eyes when you think about yourself. Because you’re not the same person you were and it’s going to take new skills to reconfigure your situation.
Rosalind
kelene says
I just wanted to comment on this. I am living throu this myself. I think one of the problems is that we keep waiting for the day we feel better. As time goes by our situitions get worse then WE wake up for whatever reason. I spend the last two years trying to live the life I wanted ( healthy me life) and decided I had to live the life I could actaully afford. Which meant I have to sell my house move to another town so that I can put myself in a much different place money wise.. I am lucky I can do this.. but I think when I realized I needed to look at me from the otherside and see what would work.. It all started to come together…
It is a really difficult challenge to overcome … and getting out of the mind set ..I have always done it this way.. to what can I do …
Hope that makes sense.
kelene
http://www.movingbeyondlifeschallenges.blogspot.com
Rosalind says
Yes…that’s what happens. It can takes weeks and even years for us to see that we’re not the person we once were. We don’t even notice how bad we feel. Lucky for you you figured it out while you could still afford to do something about it.