I got an email pointing out that I don’t have pain resources on my website. This person said she wanted to hire me to coach her in finding work. But, she wrote, I obviously don’t know anything about living with pain since it’s missing from my site.
She’s right that there’s not enough on my website or my blog about my work with people with chronic pain conditions. Nor do I have enough good resources.
The truth is that I’m immersed in several projects relating to people living with chronic pain conditions and have come across terrific resources. But I haven’t posted this even though I know that I should. As an entrepreneur whose livelihood springs from web-based marketing, I’m doing an inadequate job of promoting my business. And this critical to getting new clients.
I know this and, although I’m not happy about it, it’s a decision made with intention. I choose not to make the time because I’ve set my priorities. And right now, this isn’t at the top of the list.
How about you? How many tasks are waiting to get done and slide further down the ‘to do” list? Yikes, it’s especially true when holiday mode is in full gear. That list grows so many pages I lose count and my energy saps just looking at it.
Do you beat yourself up, even just a little, when you think of what you haven’t done? It’s so easy to do that but what a waste of time and your limited energy!
Yes, healthy people struggle with their ‘to do’ list also. But living with chronic health challenges makes it that much harder to get through the list. There’s not much you can do anything about the fact that you’re never sure if you’ll wake up feeling worse or better than when you went to sleep. This often means that you can’t be sure what you’ll be able to get done on a given day. That’s when you’ve got to reach into your inner tool box for what you can do.
Do you keep this tool handy? “I can take charge of the way I look at this!”
As you think about what you have to do, ask yourself: What’s going to help me get through just this day? What is most important to you– meeting the project deadline or going out with friends to celebrate the season? Do you have to write that last memo knowing that you won’t have time to exercise or food shop? What will you have to ‘give up’ if you go to one more store to buy those gifts?
Whatever you choose, choose with intention, so you feel in your gut that you’re making the choice.
We all make mistakes. We all act without thought. At the end of the day, forgiveness is powerful. Especially when the person you forgive is you.
How’s it going for you?